My Mud house bedroom |
I went out to release the tenants from the Mud House on the 28th June - eleven weeks earlier than the end of lease - but happily so. The next morning, I woke up in my bed there.
I wrote in my journal: Sitting on my gold velvet lounge reading how the decisions we make create our reality. My newly installed and functioning firebox to my right. I'm looking around at this amazing house in awe that I'm now here to live in it and complete it as I have imagined in my mind’s eye for a long, long time. It's so quiet and peaceful - a few creaks in the roof as the day warms up. It does feel like I'm in the right place at the right time. I hope to give the house its best chance to realise the highest rewards when sold. I'm being real about what I can achieve and what I will leave for the new owners. And then I'm going to buy me a boat! And that is very exciting.
Dad and Mums boat Galant (left) painting by Dad (FGByer) |
Roving Tar |
Some of you may be wondering
where that came from - the boat thing. I grew up with a sailing Dad, and then
met and two years later married (in 1988 at 29yo) a sailing man. He had a half
share in a 29.5' cruising yacht at the time and we bought his partner out. We
had the Roving Tar for 7 years. She was a gorgeous timber Herreschoff Ketch
which had been sailed to Australia from Canada. Pittwater, Brisbane Water, the
Hawkesbury River and to a lesser extent coastal trips to Sydney and up to Port
Stephens, were our playground. We were on that boat as often as not, even while
working full time. We absolutely loved sailing, blobbing around on anchor in
the Basin or Refuge Bay, America's Bay, swimming, trawling, waterfalls,
sailing-friends and all things waterfront. We sailed with friends on their 43'
yacht to Lord Howe Island in the early 90's. My husband Ian learned celestial
navigation just ahead of setting off. It was such a thrill to see land ahoy in
the misty early hours.
Wild Wave - our 2nd boat |
Sailing to Antarctica 2020 |
me aboard Allambie 2023 |
In between times I have stuff
to do. My recent two-and-a-half-year relationship and seven month trip around
Australia with Pete ended in April. During a difficult conversation, I realised
I only have so much energy left on the planet. I asked myself where I wanted to
spend it. The answer was, not on that relationship. We’d had lots of great
times, but enough time and energy had been spent for me to know that I wanted
to step back into my own life, build on my distant relationships with my kids
and my sisters, and with those friends and family who will travel with me till
the end. Also, to write my memoir, create art, and leverage it into an income. My
kids are grown and long flown, I'm retired from 9-5 work, responsible for two
houses, and a storage shed full of excess to my needs. I want to de-clutter,
consolidate, do me.
Shed of stuff to shed |
I’ve wondered if I am somewhere on the ADHD spectrum and have been reading up and listening to podcasts on the topic. I think I have some of the characteristics – like I like low light and certain fabrics, and I talk a lot. But not others – like anxiety, low self-esteem, procrastination. I have spoken to my therapist about it and she said everyone is on a spectrum somewhere but that no she did not think I present as someone with ADHD.
It’s over two months since I farewelled the caretakers and had my fireplace installed the same day. I have since spent a total of 31 sleeps here at ‘the farm’ in my large snuggly mud and stone bedroom. A couple of nice long stints and several shorter. My cousin Christine, who also owns a share here with her son and his family, coined Currawinya “the farm” about twenty-five years ago. It is that literally for them since Covid. They largely self-subsist - a well-oiled machine. Their share had a complete house, bunk house, schoolhouse and shed and lots of potential for farming. Now they have goats, cows, chickens, vegetables, and so much infrastructure they are a little city of their own making. But for me it is more a bush block with river frontage where I find solace in the landscape; and it has been all about building the mud house for all the time leading to now. Completing this house has been the focus in and around life outside. No mean feat I assure you.
I’m finding the house to be such a treat. I’m glamping. No running water – but bucketing from two full tanks of fresh water collected from the 12 x 17m skillion roof. No wiring, but enough access to solar camping power to keep things ticking over (when the sun is shining anyway). A drop toilet through the day and a commode through the night. Starlink through the day, downloaded podcasts and reading books by head torch at night. On that, today is pretty overcast. There is about twelve percent of a normal sunny day’s power trickling into the solar genny; so I am able to type this blog into a word doc (lap top is fully charged) ready to upload with pictures when I have more sunshine. The fridge is on, I am charging my phone on airplane mode, Bluetooth speaker, and some lights for when it gets dark.
Blog by hand on a cloudy day |
Interior painting done on a cloudy day |
The first draft of this blog was written by hand a few weeks ago on an overcast day. I think I am one of fewer and fewer people who write by hand each day. Old school; old folks habit. I really like to write by hand. Out on the verandah in my uggs and what I slept in. Surrounded by a big, clouded sky, snippets of sun peaking through here and there. Tree covered hills in every direction, the sound of birds, a blow fly now and again, and the low rumble of machinery up the 2km driveway somewhere, making it more user friendly as happens sometimes. From this vantage point I can see three other shareholdings, the community shed and machinery shed. The roof creaks as the sun comes and goes, and the Cataract River babbles over the crossing at the bottom of my block. I did a painting of an interior in the house after writing the blog. Cloudy days are a godsend in some ways, as long as they are not back-to-back. They allow me to do things that don’t require the internet.
A very blowy day |
That’s the thing about here, it’s
a real test of one’s metal to go through the process. Like maybe a modern day
version of what the pioneers did back in the day. One often wonders about one’s
sanity for biting off such a large chew. But, I can attest to the fact that after
twenty years of continuing to dig deep and find more, the result is satisfying.
My house is a miracle. I’m appreciating being here for many reasons. I’m alone
with myself. I’m safe. I have a roof over my head. Time to think. I’m working
on several projects. Contemplating my connections with others. I’m hoping to
become wiser as I become older. And remembering to be grateful. My new word
is curious.
six natives and a rose to plant |
using washing water to water in the new plants |
At the writers fest - with Danielle and Phillipa |
I had not expected to take possession of Share 10 until mid-September – that's now. And so, I had made various commitments on the coast. As I said, I have been coming and going. Which is kind of my MO really. I’m reflecting on that. It’s not a bad thing – I involve myself in all my areas of interest. I love my life. I’m free to be me. A bit of back and forth with a car full of bags - but that's all part of it. During the past two months, among other things, I attended the Byron Writers Festival as I have done every year bar one since 1998, but as a volunteer for the first time. I was a social media assistant charged with scribing quotable quotes from various panels and uploading them online for future social media posts. It was a fabulous long weekend at Bangalow Showground – the new and very gorgeous venue.
Andy and me coming into Yamba |
I spent a week onboard Allambie
– my friend Andrew’s 40ft Catalina yacht – we did an overnight leg from Southport
in the Gold Coast to Yamba on the mid north coast NSW. Not great conditions but
excellent fun and experience.
My journal reads “We left marina around 1.30pm to
head south. Motored all the way. So excited to get going – but wind on the nose,
messy ocean, Andy vomiting but functioning, me queasy but functioning, 2 hour
shifts, we slept in between.Wet weather gear, drizzly rain, dodging fishing
boats. Arrived Yamba, lovely full tide, great berth, breaky and sleep.”
I was intending to do some more legs as Andrew travelled south down the coast but that
first trip taught him, and me, that picking the right weather window is key to enjoyable
sailing. And so, I forwent waiting for weather windows and, again,
stepped back into my own life. I will have to wait till I have my own boat and the time to enjoy the cruising rhythm.
Me on night shift in the rain |
Berthed in Yamba after a big night passage |
Trish and me in the Mt Cout-Tha Botanical Garden |
Deb |
The Golden Girls |
Sprinking Mum and Dads remaining ashes at North Creek Ballina 27.8.23 |
Etching of Karen and Stuart's entry |
Etching - Interior Patchs Beach house |
Broken Car on the Hogarth Range |
Womens breaky - Danielle, Karen, Cindy, Mim, Jan, me. |
My nephew Gus turns 21! |
My God mother Auntie Marie - one of Mum's oldest friends, with my sisters and me at My Godfather Uncle John's funeral |
Shayne and me on a blue moon in Manly NSW |
Our dear Auntie Anne - Mum's oldest friend. |
When on the Ballina coast I stay in my friend Karen's garden flat or if for a short time with my sister Shayne. I am doing a house sit this coming weekend for people I don't know - that's a first. Practicing for housesitting in Melbourne going forward so I can be a bit closer to my kids sometimes. (If anyone knows of a house to sit in Melbourne Late November to late December this year please let me know.)
Tabulam Market day - hoping to part with stuff |
Sold quite a few cards! |
Yesterday I made a start of shedding belongings. I took some clothes to the Tabulam Market along with my greeting cards featuring my art. My cousins who live here on the farm nearby came with me.
I pay my respects to my 43yo Patchs Beach tenant who unexpectedly ‘left his body here and ascended’ as his mother put it, in recent weeks, tragically leaving his young and lovely partner and his family. I am just the landlady and I am devastated for her, and him and his family. RIP VM.
Life eh…